“I was praying for GOD, asking him to make my husband love me, never have I received an answer. As time went by, he walked out the door, thats when I knew GOD answered me, thats when I knew what I wish I didn’t”
When I asked why – she said its because his interest was else where. Wanted a social front, a need for everyone to call him a grown man, settled and at ease, knows how to get down with a woman.
Not necessarily true.
These are bits and pieces of an email conversation I had with a woman who reached out to me maybe a year back, discussing her failed marriage. Family arranged type.
Never once have I shown any signs of disapproval for arranged marriage. Not my field, not what I do. Always wish them the best, regardless.
She explained, told me what she found out. I wont share it, its not why I made this post, I made it because I wanted to make sure other women avoid playing the same role again.
Before I get into details, understand that these situations could happen in an “i love you – you love me” or “family arranged” marriage.
Avoid playing roles of a married woman to a man who:
Cheats – Lies – Confused mentally/preference/Sexually - with mom and dad issues – Highly insecure – Doubts you, highly. A man that doubts you/extremely selfish/insecure unintentionally shows all his cards. He’s worried you’d do what he does to you behind your back.
See I would have typed “A DOG who cheats” I cant do that, disrespect dogs ? no way. Dogs are loyal. Ladies, don’t smile, the same applies to some of you too. No pressure on men only. Lets make that clean and clear.
- Moving along -
Ladies here’s the list:
- Make sure your parents comprehend how precious you are. I mean that from all angles.
- Ask, ask, ask and ask some more. I know what marriage means to you, its what you’v dreamed of all your life. Make sure it wont turn into a nightmare.
- Engagment, prolong it. Get to know the good, bad and ugly.
- Stop being stupid. You know what Im talking about. “MOM !! He said he loves me !! AWWWW” Girl ? which cheek should I start slappin ? Men say I LOVE YOU to their mistresses too – do they mean it ?
You know im saying this with love so zip it.
Men, you too:
- If your not man enough, back off. It takes a real man to get married. AND I MEAN THAT FROM ALL ANGLES TOO.
Please refrain from inserting religion here. Dont even dare. Many dont even know how to pray, where the Qibla is, how to prepare for prayer. DO not insert religion here. NOT judging, stating facts.
Being married grants you 50% of religion’s completion. Yes it would, if you got the first half right. LORD knows we are not discussing that mess. Your mess.
Shut it, zip it and get your act together.
- Ask about her, trust and believe they are not heaven sent. Many are raised to be so, grab those – that kind – and cherish them forever.
Plus, been talking about Karma, probably ever since I had this blog running, it proved its powers so far, yes ?
You dont want to mess with Karma. Karma is a what ? Yeah, thats right.
I guess chemistry is either H2O, CO2 or an explosive union, think dexter’s lab. Ditch Dede. HAH!
Obviously, I care for women and I invest in ways to push them forward, not that they need it, but an extra effort wouldn’t hurt.
On a much brighter level, there are men running their lives with high values, beautiful standards and great personalitites, they inspire me – I admire them alot, wish their energy would rub off on my being. They are the kind of men I wish my sisters, cousins and dear friends would marry.
Its always about the intention. If you have it, run away with it, achieve through it everything you ever wanted.
Life never revolved around marriage. Holly verses state that we were created solely to worship. Thats beautiful, if you knew what it really meant.
Smiling is a form of worship. Working hard is a form of worship.
The forgotten & one of the highest states/levels of worship is meditation. An act done by Prohpets and other beings blessed with high levels of consiousness. Who does that now ? The people I know never crossed the number of fingers in one hand.
Try that for a change.
Maybe it will make you a better human being who knows how to treat his wife/husband/friend/lover/parents/strangers/anyone.
p.s: The women remarried.