Phenomenon: Jealousy

We are made of mud. Strong statement is it not ?

Beautiful how we come to existence with countless talents, emotions and creativity.

Some are seen as gifted, they bring forth a breakthrough, a quantum leap, an invention or simply an idea many people like.

Feelings, in all their colors, bright to dark, are all naturally built in. Dealing with them is not.

Feelings of love, joy and belonging are elements that lead you to a state of bliss. When love comes through, every black and white scene in your mind, suddenly becomes fresh with loads of strong, shiny colors, even layers of it too.

Ofcourse, sometimes people utter words/share stories/show off/bring forth an action that triggers jealousy in you. Say a new house, car, man, friend, money, you name it, the list is infinite for those who are easily triggered.

The question is, how do you deal with these feelings ? How do you take out the jealousy in you out of your system ?

Before I answer that and just to make you relate more to the post, thought of bringing real examples from different eras in Kuwait, will help you view things differently, all under one roof, jealousy & human behavior.

A definition must come first right?

Jealousy is a secondary emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. Jealousy often consists of a combination of presenting emotions such as anger, sadness, resentment and disgust.

Off we go with different events.

 

Kuwait 1950′s:

A very wealthy man married a woman he loved so much and was known for kissing her publicly on the cheeks, infront of his and her people – gathering, social scenes.
They were known as a power couple, completely independent and had nothing to fear but the safety of one another.

One day, he overheard his father in law, a man he admired so much, comparing him to his brother. unfortunately to him, he was not praised at all, he was thought of  as an extra, as an arrogant fool who cannot come close, not even an inch to the greatness and humble presence of his brother.

As shockingly foolish as it may sound, he had two things that were eating him up, jealousy of his brother and revenge from his father in law.

So what did he do ?

Divorced the love of his life, married someone else from a socially lower class just to state that “I don’t need a social standard, I am it”.

Cute but stupid.

I wont elaborate more, but I’ll tell you this, Karma took good care of everything.

 

Kuwait 1980′s:

A group of brothers inherited alot. Their father, gave each and everyone of them a company or two to manage. A fair share of everything.

One of them thought his share was not good enough, at least thats what his wife came up with.

Years went by, many small companies owned by his brothers, grew up, became semi-house hold names, while his business kept shrinking.

He was tormented between thoughts of jealousy and being victimized, a big thank you to his nagging wife.

In a way or another, he managed to claim assets illegally. His brothers asked him privately to put what he took back to where it belongs. He refused.

I wont elaborate more, but i’ll tell you this, Karma took good care of everything.

 

Kuwait 2009 – 2010 :

#1 The great fire in jahra. (Newlyweds and the EX)

#2 Wedding disasters that alternate between, clothes burned, weddings cancelled and countless divorce cases based on jealousy, mistrust and cheating.

 

Kuwait, 2010 – 2011:

Just a few days ago, I made two posts for two different business groups that were shut down due to a claim of illegal action of some sort. Ofcourse, these claims are false and everything ran back to normal.

Im just stating facts here. Still, this is not the example I want to highlight. I have another one. I wish not to highlight it, it would be too obvious.

However, jealousy gets intense when the word “competition” is involved. Which is the case here in the business of food and clothing, jealousy is just beyond imaginations.

The result was stores closed, people fired, websites hacked and finally emotional breakdown.

Again, Karma took good care of everything, some matters are still pending though.

 

Conclusion:

No one is immune from jealousy. How you deal with it is everything you need to know.

If someone is showing or sharing with you openly about a relationship/house/car/money or even a job, feelings of jealousy comes might rush in, immediately – and I’m not joking – immediately tell your brain that these thoughts are unwanted and you are trying your best to be happy and genuinely loyal and caring towards that person.

On a personal level, if you see something you like that another person has, be happy for them, within you say ” I hope one day, i’ll have something like that or even better, and for the mean time, I hope they enjoy what they have to the max” or simply say “Bless them”

Try to seed thoughts of caring, love and compassion, pass these bits of energy from your mind to everything you see and like.

Most importantly, you have to understand that what you have now is enough. If you are meant to have more, you would. You have to make peace within before you go out and expose yourself to the challenges out there.

There is nothing more devastating than having everything in the world and still feeling empty.

and there is nothing greater than having what you do now, and feel perfectly complete and whole with nothing more to ask. In other words, being grateful for everything.

Food for thought.