Phenomenon: Space/Clutter Part 2

I made a post about clutter/stress back in MAY. More things popped up so this is part 2.
“Less is more”
I love 3D graphics, visual stuff and sophistication in all forms. Thats why I thought i’d use this technology on myself.
3-4 years ago, I started using a program called Mind Manager by Mindjet, extremely popular. I use it for all my projects at work and I use it when I want to travel somewhere to get everything up and running. Plus, you get to have a bird’s eye view on all your tasks in a split second.
This time I made it personal. I made a mind map visualizing my life as the centre piece and whatever I throw in are elements that I deal with everyday.
Lots of mental effort ofcourse but its all good cuz you get to see cons and pros real quick.
Coffee // Phones // People
These are the elements that I went back and forth on, with no clear answer until I came up with solutions for each and every issue.
Ofcourse nerdy readers will realize that all these three elements share one particular feature. Social Network. Thats what these three revolve around.
Coffee:
Im not cheap, lets get that straight. I love having coffee with friends and strangers everyday at work. I don’t mind paying as long as we all sit together cuz thats fun !
On the other hand, I realized im paying around 6-7 KD a day on JUMBO size coffee, thats like 90 – 120 KD a month.
Time management ? There is nothing to manage here, the lovely citizens of this fine country have lots and lots to discuss. LORD knows what im talking about specially when a drink is at hand. Coffee that is, HAH!
Let me give you a glimpse of what usually happens:
“Oh its 9 am ? yeah too early, lets have coffee !! – then you go with the usual – Halla walla – Hello, Hi Bye Maaaye chaaaaye list of hellos and goodbyes – Chit chat – Newspapers – Latest news/peeps – hot topics…. ooooH !! its 11 am already ? lets go !! – A friend passes by – Hey hey !! – 11,30 am // DING DING !! Prayer time is up – Pray Pray Pray – 12,15 pm ? – lets go back to the office man ! we’re late ! You sit your ass down on the chair by 12,30, thats if your lucky”
This is the part where you hear WORK, metaphorically, singing Miss Jackson’s “What Have you done for me lately ?”
Because this is an obvious CON on the list, I decided to fix it:
I bought my own coffee machine from Nespresso (click here) till now everything is working just fine. The whole machine costs 100 KD only, a big cup of coffee is 1 hundred 75 fils only, capsule price. I drink 2-3 cups, roughly 16 KD a month. THATS a 104 KD cheaper, not to mention quality and time management mess.
I’v been on this plan for 10 days and I know the difference. My boss is beyond happy, lets just say that.
Killed the extra good for nothing gatherings. Filled my pocket with my hard earned money & went for a much healthier option. Win win win from all sides.
Phones:
Been a blackberry user for over 2 years now and I must say that I, like many millions, fell in love with it.
Epiphanies don’t just pop up, something has to happen for you to realize how messed up you are.
I used to say to friends:
“I cant use an iphone, it doesn’t blink when you receive anything, it just makes a sound then it shuts up. what if I didn’t hear it ? “
“I cant use it while im driving, i cant text, I cant depend on it, its too delicate with a stupid touch screen, i want a qwerty keyboard”
“iPhones are not fun” I used to say that referring to the lack of BBM service.
The very first reason for everything that annoy & distract me is that goddamn red blink. My GOD ! its like a baby that nags. “Im here im here pick me pick me take me take me” and would not shut up until you check what that blink is blinking for.
So I pick up the phone in the midst of car rage/street block/crazy horns like hell rose up !
What do I find ? BUT Ofcourse, a lovely broadcast, from a lovely female saying:
“SHOOJY I love you – wayed 3awartay galbee bil 7alqaa elyoum”
ok girl, for real ? alright alright, imma let the ladies reply back to this mess
Cuz usually, when I read something stupid, I just throw the phone and look the other way with GOD KNOWS WHAT in my head.
What do you want me to say ? YAAY ? I share the same thing with you? lets make a sharooka ? Eat cake and share stories ? Girl how lonely were you when you sent that broadcast ? what were you thinking ? you did what ? girl you know you messed it up, big time !
Nough said, im being polite ok ? – Moving along.
Then, texting while driving comes up, I made a vow not to text or hold the phone in my hand while driving. That solves the issue. but I must say that any phone now can be connected to your car through bluetooth, so your eyes are fixed on the road with both hands on the steering wheel. Thats way better than what I used to do and because there is no BBM on my beautiful iPhone 4, im never distracted.
Last point is the phone not being fun cuz it lacks the notorious BBM service. Well ? One phrase here, GOOD RIDDANCE !
My GOD, people talk talk talk like crazy. Shut up.
I am a talker too with the right people, friends, family and those who are really close to me, aside from that im a listener.
Why do I have to know about what you are about to do ? Or where you are right now ? Sharing is caring ? well yes baby it is BUT ONLY if i put a ring on it and THAT is soo not happening now. No ma’am.
O lawd, I need to pray.
Obviously, I fixed all problems above by switching to an iphone. Oh and can i just say that syncing stuff on the iphone is perfection ?
People:
Last but not least comes the wonderful combination of internet, phones, coffee and gatherings in general. People.
Some people, just like chemistry, represent various elements we studied back in high school. Some elements are still. Some are hyper. When mixed together, they change and become something new.
Colors tend to be seen the same way too. Mix yellow and orange, you’ll get red. Green and yellow, Blue.
Now ladies I know how hard it is to gather up with your friends, lots of elements come up but we boys have it way easier than you. I confess.
Lately, Iv been pampering myself really well. Because I threw out lots of unnecessary attachments with lots of peeps to focus on myself.
I hired a personal trainer, I have a nutritionist, a catering food company that brings me customized food wherever I am, hit the gym regularly now and doing A mighty fine job at work.
I could not cope with that earlier, I was always doing something for someone or hanging out somewhere or junking myself to death. Just ugly.
That, my dear, does not happen out of coincidence, you have to plan it out. Everything you want, you can get, if you have a vision backed up by a well thought out plan.
And then tell me this, what do 3wair and zwair have to offer you better than what you can offer yourself ? I mean, they are 3wair and zwair after all, the names reveal it all.
Wake up.
Conclusion:
“Less is more”
This is the first time in my life where I understood this line of wisdom perfectly.
Less people around you, means more you. Why look so far ? Imagine a picture with you being in the middle, still, surrounded by lots of people. Yes, you are there, you do stand out, BUT you can not deny you’ll shine even more if you were the only one there.
Please do not digest this as an EGO driven post. Go with self love and appreciation.
Thats what I aim for. I really hope you get it.



hallelujah! this is perfectly thought of and written mashallah. and yes i do do DO agree with you, sometimes i do need to have more “me” than people, and that is not me being a snob but we do need to put ourselves first in this crazy life we live. the more people u have around you, the more people you now, the more you will get lost; u will get lost within them, unnoticeable, invisible maybe? or u urself will forget about urself and get busy with them, help THEM succeed, help THEM with their needs. this means u are demeaning urself, u will be miserable, depressed, stuck in life not knowing what to do next , just flying from one person to another, and forgetting you. but when u figure out which people are more important to you than others, then you can focus, focus more on yourself. When this happens, u can notice a change in your mood, u will find urself climbing, no scratch that, flying! up the stairs of success, and all through that u will have those whom u love the most with you and a smile plastered on your face. sometimes, its ok to put urself as ur first priority, its ok
Hey hey, im so glad you liked it, I would have loved to elaborate more on your comment, however, it seems you got it all figured out !
Good for you, bless you !
nice post … I can’t do this disciplined life … not for me
… I love my early morning alone tea writing my journal to set the tone for the day … with all the new techs and stuff .. for me the paper and pen is what works for me
.. as for the diet .. 3 club here I come!
If what you r doing right now works well with you, stay ;D
if not, change it !
wiii… i guess ur friends are gunna miss u…
Maybe but I dont agree cuz we’ll always meet on the weekends, sleep overs, chalet, Abdily, Wafra oo safraat ;P
Its an amazing feeling when you feel set free, and you are right, most of luxuries around us are becoming the reason of our misery without us realizing it. I have my BB but I only added 7 friends, only 3 of which I chat with, mainly for work that’s it. Everything can happen with time management, no matter what the lifestyle you choose is, you can organize yourself and slip in a routine that can help you be at peace. I have not met anyone who was not shocked about how I can manage everything in my life without falling apart, I feel blessed I know how to give everything its time and attention but give “me” attention as well.
Great post and great way of simplifying it, this way it will help many who feel their life is a mess to start clearing the clutter in their lives starting with the most simplest things.
Good luck, may you always be this happy and in turn spread that around you:)
“Everything can happen with time management, no matter what the lifestyle you choose is, you can organize yourself and slip in a routine that can help you be at peace. I have not met anyone who was not shocked about how I can manage everything in my life without falling apart, I feel blessed I know how to give everything its time and attention but give “me” attention as well.” PREACH SISTER !
NOW THATS the truth and you know it, BLESS YOU !
i never was a blackberry (never will be);p
I love ppl bt i just dnt like how every1 is so addictive;s
I dnt know abt u ppl bt i think it’s rude when som1 is talkin to u while ur texting with ur bb
iphone all the way
o fe htc (i heard it’s better than the iphone)
Nashkorich MEME 3ala el feedback ;D
Thank you! Clearing clutter is the first step for a healthy life, if you like I wrote a post about it from a design perspective, afterall good space design = better life, right?
http://bit.ly/d5l2qL
Beautiful Post!