Phenomenon: Profanity
I love conversations. I love long long discussions, cool, easy breathable debates that sometimes enlightens both sides, sometimes it leads to no where.
Not all conversations make sense at the moment, many make sense after a long period. With me, some conversations made sense years after its occurrence.
I love to have a wrong/false idea about something/someone then get corrected by those who know what they’r talking about. THAT I love.
Im blessed to be a student of literature. Read many pieces from here and there. Studied the manners of arabic poetry/literature, in which they taught us how arab women were known to send very important letters to kings and queens with a line or two only. Full of respect and wisdom.
As a young kid, I never understood the value of this course till I met who I met recently. There were no one-liners, in a way, shape or form, there were mountains of words mixed with curses/profanities, hand gestures, body language and eye-laser-indications that brought me down.
I will discuss with you a sample of Kuwaiti men and women I met abroad recently who are completely new to my database. Strangers, new comers that blazed lots of personal issues out of no where and definitely for no reason.
Lemme just get to the root of what I want.
Before I do, please lets highlight the NO JUDGEMENT flag, yes ?
I have noticed that people open up to you more when they are abroad. They tend to think they wont see you again so they just pour everything out, cool.
I had long conversations with total strangers. Men and Women. I’ll just rephrase and decode what was said, make it PG for everyone.
MEN:
“When I drink red wine, I forget that *Nasty Nasty Nasty Nasty* Good for nothing *Nasty Nasty Nasty Nasty* woman/dog”
“Use ‘em throw ‘em, thats what they are made for, B!@#$”
“Are you going to the bar ? come with us, spend some cash, p!@#”
“When I travel I loose weight, you see, I like having white wine since its low cal, only 120 calories a glass, hahahaha im a mo!@(*! F!@#$ for sure”
“Here have a glass, have her, have anything you want you p!@#”
“I better pray before I sleep tonight, tomorrow I have to win big at the casino, those !@#$%%^^&@! took all my money”
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Ok, at first, all of that mess was cute in a way, but when I realized that there was lots of heat and unsettled mental arguments in their brains, I thought I should cross a red line. I did, Gladly.
Shoving your red wine in my face, your wife, your kids, girlfriend, sorry girlfriendS and all your crew of distasteful language/manners is something, asking me to be part of that mess is where I slow motion a slap on your mug.
Which reminds me, I was having my harsh on the throat diet coke with ice and lemon, so this man comes in screaming with his eyes all red and OUT “you have no idea how dangerous that is” with a cuban cigar on the right and god knows what in the left hand. I just smiled and said dangerous ? my my my. Yes indeed.
Oh and none of these men knew one another. I wonder why, I should have hooked them up. SIN GALORE.
My curse ? I smile a lot so I get to know more people. Lovely.
Some men tend to use curse words within sentences like a comma. Example:
“Haa, !@#$ $#@! ishloonik ?”
Yeah, they use it when all ties are up and the friendship is on its best terms as a sign of manly love/appreciation/Homie/dog/Dawg/buddies.
It may not be nice or appreciated generally, but its there wether we like it or not.
Trust me, I know you know what im talking about.
Women:
“My husband ? he doesn’t know it but im smart like any other b!@#$ should be”
“He goes out with another woman and i know it, he thinks he’s the only one, HAH! that son of a b!@#$”
“Why aren’t you married yet ? not interested in us ? do we bore you ? should we upgrade this, this, this or that” Pointing on everywhere imaginable.
“I love my husband, he’s amazing but he’s a son of a !@#$ too”
and my all time favorite line
“My boyfriend plays monopoly, I play !@#$LY”
There are more things I can not DECODE. I mean Lil’kim is an angel in comparison.
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Look, I understand that some women may use curses from time to time, I understand that they use it internally/sisterhood/between each other – That I understand. I remember how some women would cover their mouths with their hands if they knew I heard what they said, its not about man power, its about being polite or presentable.
My thing was, aside from the lovely gestures and over the top street language, why are you sharing this with me ? I barely know you, Now I go through you, your boyfriend, husband and kids ? You did not mind the age gap, level of knowledge or the fact that Im not interested in all that mess but you placed it on the table, regardless.
Women are very delicate creatures, seeing them lose it in public/to me was so EVE/APPLE/BITE/FALL from grace.
This is not judgement, this is how I felt. I felt miserable, all the beauty I saw vanished in thin air.
I tried not to give in to what was said, but some were stubborn. Crossed another red line. Glad I did.
*PAUSE*
These men and women, supposedly, are highly respectable. They represent different families, all well known and all powerful in their own terms.
Anger/resentment/plots/Self-Destruct were definitely a driving force in most of what I saw and heard. All of those people were funny, easy going and just BIG children. I know in reality they mean no harm to no one. They are weak and broken. They escape through language, codes and numbers. Thats how they do it.
Conclusion:
Language is very powerful. Using words lightly strip away their true meaning. i,e; Going with “I love you” on repeat means nothing.
Men should understand that they may influence other men from a younger generation to go astray. Monkey sees, monkey does.
Women are gifts on earth just like flowers.
Flowers produce O2 and Honey. Nothing else.
“If you want to stand out, don’t be different, be outstanding”
Meredith West
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great post and the quote in the end is amazing i can’t stop reading it
Im super happy you found it useful, THank you !
looll!!!
wooowww!!
*sways in the wind like a flower*
so do i have to keep my language cleaan?? ;p
hahaha, Nope
I cant stand cursing, I utterly hate it. Great post
Thank you MAY
wow that was some post! i wish most ppl can learn from u…
Thank you very much, i hope I learn from it before anyone else
I MISS U KATKOT ;’/
hello ;P bas I dont know you ? ;D
SMALTY ;’/
Smalty ? hmmm
that “curse ” love used by friends … i really don’t understand .. and am talking about the “heavy”(
) curses ….
Im a man, thats how I talk. Thats how they think, thats how/why they should be face slapped ;P
loved the post!!
Glad you did, summer ;D
I am a lady in public but a total closet curser. When I’m mad and alone I just curse and curse and …! You might have seen me driving alone in my car in Kuwait ~ cursing up a freakin’ storm! ;P
hahaha, thats cute !
your Conclusion…. utterly took my breath away…spoken like a true man and a Gentleman…. Abso-Freakin-Lutely Hot and sweet at the same time.. they should make clones out you young man..
Hey there, thanks for dropping by, thats so sweet of you to say, your too kind.
Im glad you liked it ;D
My Pleasure Abdullah
yeah apparently profanities are the new cool…
its disgusting
nafs ma gelt, sometimes you feel compelled to use it every now and then, ut i hate it when people make it such a regular part of their life :S
Its all about who and what your surround yourself with, words of that nature are not innate within us, they are CREATED by the ill/damaged/unawakened ones between us.
its stupid, uncalled for and definitely unnecessary in any shape or form.
Great post sweets… hope you’re enjoying yourself :*
THANK YOU ildileeeeeee
Let’s face it… 99% of Kuwaiti guys use profanity to describe almost anything, even the weather… literally
But of those 99%, the behaved ones would only resort to profanity in front of their close friends. Those who curse in front of strangers/family should be disciplined.
But you referred to ‘mabya3a’ phrases such as the “use’em, throw’em…”
Now THAT is something else… I can only think of one explanation:
Apparently, these people say these things to whoever was willing to listen, in our case Abdullah, you happen to be caught in the crossfire.
Now why would they boast about their indiscretions to whoever crosses their path? The answer is to simply feel good about themselves when they hear you laugh or smile at their remarks. Little did they know that you pity them. They feel they needed that smile or laugh from others because they suffer from an inferiority complex. They feel insecure so they respond by showing how ‘mabya3a’ they are. Don’t these guys realize saying these things actually emasculates them?
A general rule, if someone approached you with that crap then it is more probable that they’re simply lying, I bet the guy who said “use’em throw’em” have been rejected by the ladies all too often because they saw that he’s a low life. I can imagine him now on his knees groveling for his 2-minute pleasure in a brothel. Now that’s a nasty thought for you
Oh by the way, most of these phrases really cracked me up!
Enjoy your holiday… wherever you are
Well hello ;P look who’s here ;P
Well, I have to agree on every single thing you said, its just real and raw.
I did note down there somewhere THAT they are weak and unawakened, so yeah im right with you on that.
I really really really wanted you to see their faces, 1,000,000 dollar bills ! aaaah !!
Oh and that nasty thought ? bo you know that aint nothing on what was seen and heard by MOI. Im not talking about men, WOMEN WOMEN WOMEN lost it !! oh and some are KAFKHEEN !
When you read those phrases again, please try to encode it back to Kuwaiti with laughs & sleepy eyes in between.
LAWWWD SAVE US !