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During the long anticipated/well earned vacation, Iv been hanging with many friends/relatives/couples (Married, Nonmarried) semi-strangers here in Kuwait and abroad. We talked, giggled, whispered, some cried out of joy or pure sadness.
The topic, relationships.
Through many observations in the various discussions I had, revelations appeared:
Men tend to reveal the masculine/I dont feel a thing/let her burn/she’ll be back, philosophies. While checking their phones on the side. Majority.
She focuses on small things, the meaningless mess and is too observant, why ? They asked while mumbling ” I give her a whole garden, she asks what about that apple over there”
Women tend to “act a fool” in emotions, keeping it classy through-out the conversation, reminiscing of the cool things happened earlier, smiling with mixed emotions. Majority.
He is irresponsible, careless, loves me, yes, but not really, why ? They freaked out, with future plans for a hair cut, quickly checking tummy and thighs, with a worried look, then pulling it all back together with a cold face.
Being the listener in these rich/deeply emotional/candid/random confessions kept me tempted to judge but I swore on my soul to never judge, ever.
I realized I was asked, indirectly, to give my opinion in what was presented, to be fair, yet, to be an ally, again, indirectly.
I only smile. Thats what Im good at.
I wont annoy you with a long post so i’ll keep it short.
Although I saw my friends mistakes, flaws and egos. I thought of a “Neutral” answer. I thought of being Switzerland. I thought of “Self Value” where it was obviously questioned and unconsciously degraded by themselves.
I asked questions like, Do you think you deserve this treatment ? Do you deserve better ? Why ? and so forth. The answers were shocking.
Some said, No I dont deserve the love I received. Some said, Im a dream come true to him/her.
What was interesting, in my book, was the open “he said, she said” argument that occurred infront of me, couples to be specific.
They were tense, yet smiling, sometimes holding hands, while I sit there motion/emotionless, thinking of the pain I used to go through, get into a daze, then quickly reply with a Yes/No/Maybe answer.
It was all about value. “You did this to me, so I do it back to you”, even worse,”i’ll do it my way”.
Still, in love.
Creme du La creme ?
If you think you deserve what you have, praise the lord and hold on to what was given with absolute gratitude.
If not, immediately stop the drama, hold your tongue and halt those damned good for the devil tears.
Talking to your stupid friends about it in an attempt to show yourself as the victim will only make you drown more in the mud of ugliness, honestly.
Remember, the only reason you picked up that phone and called your friend was to show’em that your right and he’s wrong.
When you hang up. Shower up, ease down, and slowly “think” your about to sleep, answers will prevail and you’ll know what you did. Denial.
No, not the river in egypt. Denial, as in denying the fact that you messed it up big time.
Say/express/communicate with yourself that your value is way up there Or shut up and save the world from the pollution of noise.
Thats what I did.