All too often, the idea of “moving on” is treated as the worst thing ever. Giving up on something (or someone) is made out to be a a tragedy, a weakness and a character flaw… when sometimes it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
“Giving up,” is a statement of weakness in itself. The words come with a negative connotation that somehow makes us feel like doing so is wrong, but I’m here to tell you that I learned it is one of the greatest abilities of all.
Being able to walk away from something is actually an expression of strength and control. When we find ourselves in a negative situation, the ability to change it by leaving is the ultimate expression of power. Many of the situations we find ourselves in only control us because we give our consent to them… and then we seem to forget that we have the power to leave them.
But by being willing to let go, even in the face of of the fear of being Forever Alone, you are proving yourself to be stronger and more powerful than the people who hope to hold you down. It’s tacitly saying that you value yourself and your boundaries more than some nebulous fear. It’s saying that you’re brave enough and strong enough to take your chances, to start over and rebuild from scratch if that’s what it comes down to, rather than stay in that situation any longer. You are willing to ignore the people who will second-guess you and question you and make assumptions because you are secure enough in yourself to care what they think. By taking that chance, you are explicitly demonstrating that you have the confidence and the courage to do what’s right for you.